6th January 2017

Three Marriage Course Myths

Even the mention of the Marriage Course can make us nervous and defensive. We might be quick to assume that we don’t need help in our relationship or that we won’t like it. Often people are put off the idea of the Marriage Course because they don’t really know about it. So let’s tackle a few marriage course myths.

Myth 1: The Marriage Course is for struggling marriages.
Lots of people assume that the only reason you’d need to go on the Marriage Course is because you’re struggling in your marriage. But the Marriage Course is about strengthening relationships, and strengthening is not the same as solving.

Things only need solving when there’s a problem, but anything can be strengthened for the better. A building whose walls are crumbling has a problem that needs solving; a building that is strong and sturdy, but which regularly experiences the pressure of harsh weather conditions, doesn’t have a problem, but could always do with strengthening. Every marriage, however strong or strained, can be strengthened by the practical tools given in the Marriage Course.

Myth 2: I’ll have to tell other people about how my marriage is going.
The thought of sitting down in a circle and telling other people how your marriage is going may be your idea of a nightmare! You can picture the looks of shock and horror, or worse, disappointment, on people’s face as you admit what really goes on at home, how infrequently you get a date night, or the cause of your last argument.

But the marriage course isn’t like that. There’s no group discussion. There’s no confession time. You and your partner will have your own table, and you’ll get to work through the material with just the two of you.

Myth 3: It’s impossible for us to come because we haven’t got childcare and we can’t afford to pay for the course.
Finding babysitters can be hard, but if you want to come along to the course, we want to help you to make it happen. If you’d like to come but feel you can’t because you can’t find a babysitter, let us know and we’ll help you to arrange something. If you’ve got teenagers, you can drop them off at youth before coming to the course.

And if the cost of the course is too much for you - £50 to cover the food and materials – we want to help with that too. Just let us know and we’ll make sure you can come along.

Why not come along to the marriage course introduction evening on 13th January, 7.00-9.15pm at The Hastings Centre? They’ll be food and drink, with no cost and no commitment to sign up!

The next marriage course starts on Friday 3rd February and runs for 7 weeks (excluding February 17th, half term week). The course costs £50 per couple to cover food and materials, but let us know if that’s a problem. If you’d like to sign up contact the church office or go to the Connect page.

Ian & Claire Lockwood

Posted by Ian & Claire Lockwood


4th May 2016

Introducing... Going Deeper

Have you ever wondered why there are four Gospels? Surely one would have done the job. And what about the Kingdom of God, ever wondered what that’s actually about? How about the story of Jesus’ death – why does Jesus seem so calm in Luke but so anguished in Mark and Matthew? How come Mark doesn’t have any of the Christmas story or resurrection appearances? And what’s going on in John’s Gospel?

In our first Going Deeper course, we’ll be exploring all these questions and lots more. The four Gospels tell us about the life, death and resurrection of Jesus; they show us what Jesus said and did. And so, put simply, if we want to get to know Jesus better we need to read and understand the Gospels. Over the course of seven evenings we’ll be seeking to do exactly that in Going Deeper: Gospels.

Each evening of Going Deeper will include front-led teaching, interactive activities, discussion and Q&A. Anyone who joins us will go away at the end with a better understanding of who Jesus is and why He came, as well as being better equipped to read the Bible well.

The sessions will look something like this:

Thursday 26 May — Introduction: What are the Gospels? How were they written? How should we read them? Why are there four?

Thursday 2 June — Contexts: What stories do we need to know to understand the story of the Gospels?

Thursday 9 June – The Gospel of Mark: An introduction to Mark’s Gospel, its story and key themes.

Thursday 16 June – The Gospel of Matthew: An introduction to Matthew’s Gospel, its story and key themes.

Thursday 30 June – The Gospel of Luke: An introduction to Luke’s Gospel, its story and key themes.

Thursday 7 July – The Gospel of John: An introduction to John’s Gospel, its story and key themes.

Thursday 21 July – But what about...? Difficult passages, weird stories and confusing sayings.

So if you want to get to know Jesus better by understanding the Gospels better, come along to Going Deeper.

You can sign-up at the Information Desk on a Sunday or email the church office (

Andrew Bunt

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11th June 2015

The Alpha and Omega of King's

Can you remember the first time you came to church? Maybe you've grown up in a Christian family and have always been involved in church life. But if it's all new to you, how does King's help you make the journey from passer-by to part of the family?

It may seem obvious, but our first and most important way of reaching out to people is through our Sunday meetings. This is where we attract the most visitors, and both meetings have different appeals. While our morning meetings have plenty for families and have the largest number of people, our evening meetings are much more relaxed, taking place in Coffee Box with a more acoustic feel to worship and smaller numbers, which for many is a great introduction to church.

One person who was new to church and started coming to King's last year said, "From the moment I entered the doors I felt warmly welcomed and the atmosphere was great. I could immediately tell that I was going to like it. The preach that evening spoke so many words to me – I felt like it was chosen just for me. Everyone in the church was so lovely and wanted to speak to me and make me feel included."

The church also runs plenty of regular events throughout the week, whether that's our parent and toddler group Totz Klub or our lunch club for the over 55s, while the Hastings Centre hosts a range of activities, from mid-week fitness groups to film nights at our café, Coffee Box. With an estimated 2,600 visitors coming through our doors each week, excluding Sundays, there's plenty of opportunity for those who are new to hear about King's and join us on Sundays.

Plenty of new visitors are interested in exploring Christianity for the first time, and this is where our Alpha course comes in. Our last course started with a taster evening that attracted over 100 people. Hosted in Coffee Box, the night included a free curry for every guest and video testimonies of changed lives from members of King's. From this, nearly 30 people (more than we've ever had on one Alpha course) signed up for the course itself, which began a week later.

The Alpha Course is for anyone, even with little or no experience of Christianity. It's a setting to hear about some of the ideas underpinning the faith, explore different topics and ask any questions – nothing is too outrageous! Some of the topics we explored on the last course included: "Is there a God?", "Who is Jesus?" and "What happened at the Cross?" During the Holy Spirit Day, which was dedicated to understanding and receiving from the Holy Spirit, several experienced him for the first time; and in another session exploring the area of healing, we were thrilled to see guests healed of aches and pains there and then. But even more exciting was the fact that several had given their lives to Jesus for the first time during the course, which we love to celebrate! You can read about some of the testimonies of guests who were on the course here.

The Alpha Course was so popular this year that we decided to run three 'Alpha Plus' sessions after the main course had finished. These seemed to be the natural next step, and we were able to cover more advanced questions, such as "What is prayer?" and "What is the Church?"

A guest from our most recent Alpha course said, "I was healed during one of the Alpha sessions. The Holy Spirit day was mind-blowing, I've never witnessed or felt anything like it."

After the Christmas break, with plenty of opportunity for those finishing Alpha to visit us at our Christmas event the Greatest Gift, our Foundations course began. Taking a step forward from Alpha, our Foundations course aims to lay down the fundamental truths to Christianity. It's primarily for new Christians, although this year there was an opportunity for anyone who was ‘still looking’ after Alpha to join in the group discussion. The seven-week course followed a curriculum set by former lead elder of King's, John Groves, and this time there were short interviews with mature Christians on different areas of faith, as well as the chance to clear up Christian jargon and discuss the practical applications of living with this faith. The course was a success, as you can find out here.

Several people committed their lives to Jesus throughout the two courses, which is really exciting! This is our hope in running the courses, and we're so pleased to see people know Jesus for themselves. In Scripture we read that one of the first things we should do when we give our lives to Jesus is to be baptised (we see it in the gospels, even in the life of Jesus). In November, we had the privilege of baptising 12 people; in February a further six; and in June another nine. These 27 made a public commitment of their faith our wonderful Saviour.

Following the courses and baptisms, guests this year have been invited to join a small group specifically running for them. It can be easy to let people 'fall through the gap' when finishing these courses, especially when the next step is to join a church of around 400, which can be daunting, so small group life is an important way of integrating new people into the life of King's.

They've also had a flavour of church life through serving. This year is the first time we've invited people to serve on the back of a Foundations course, and it is so key in demonstrating the love that God has shown us and participating in our family life. There are plenty of areas to get involved at church, from helping on the welcome team (which for some echoes their first experience of church) to helping to set up meetings, and much more.

Those who have learnt about the basics of Christianity afterwards also have the option to take part in an Exploring Membership course, our most recent of which ran this month. This is a chance for anyone who thinks they might want to become a member of King's to explore, in two sessions, what values we uphold and what the vision is for the future. Exploring Membership gives people the chance to ask questions about this particular church and decide whether they want to commit to church life here.

There are so many other courses that King's runs, which are open to all: the Parenting Course, the Marriage Course, (which attracted non-Christians for the first time this year), and the Christians Against Poverty (CAP) Money Course, which has been helpful in giving principles for effective money management and helping people to stay out of debt. Even for people who aren't Christians, these sessions are full of valuable teaching and principles that are applicable to various areas of life. Our aim is to practically equip anyone for day-to-day life, and in doing so we want to share God's love with them.

It can be easy to recognise the huge amount that King's does in the process of welcoming new people, but we don't want to forget that the reason for all of these courses, events and meetings are not just so that we can create a bigger club. We want to see people enter into a relationship with Jesus that goes from strength to strength! We're grateful for the opportunities God gives us to see this happen in numerous lives, and hope and pray that through us God will continue to grow his Church.

Sian Francis-Cox

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6th January 2014

Building on solid foundations

How important are foundations? We’ve had many storms recently: torrential rain and strong winds. The subsequent flooding can cause huge damage but it rarely makes a building move. That is because our buildings are built on very firm foundations. A lot of time is spent making sure a foundation is solid and sure so that the building it is built upon will stand firm.

In Matthew 7, Jesus told a parable of two buildings being built: one on a rock; the other on sand. This was always a favourite story of mine when I was a small child. Its central point is simple to understand even for small children. Jesus said that His teaching was foundational; he said we would be foolish to build on anything else. Strong words!

It’s always exciting hearing new teaching that we have never heard before, but everything should be built firmly on the foundational teachings of our faith. With the huge growth of the internet and the readily accessible wealth of information at hand, it can be very easy to build on weak foundations. That is why we developed a revised Foundations course here at King's. The eight-week course doesn't include everything we believe, but it features the foundations that the rest is built on. We look at key subjects such as repentance, faith, baptism in water and in the Holy Spirit, the Church, grace and quite a bit more.

The discussion format of the course is very similar to the hugely successful Alpha course, where a 10-15 minute presentation is given and then there is an opportunity to discuss, ask questions and benefit from the experience of the discussion group leaders.

Just as we should have a regular health check with our GP, it’s a good idea to have a regular check-up of the foundational truths of the Word of God in our hearts. For this reason, anyone could do the course, whether just coming off the Alpha course or established in the church for many years.

Our next Foundations course starts on Thursday 16 January. Sign up here.
Foundations Jan 2014

Adrian Pursglove

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