KING’S CHURCH BLOG


27th July 2016

Thanks from Hamberis family

On Sunday we said goodbye to Santino, Emma, Tom and Bethany Hamberis, and presented them with some gifts, including the £3,175 our church family so generously gave. Here is a message from the Hamberis family in response:

King's Church family, what can we say other than: we absolutely adore you lovely lot!

We have been completely blown away by the love, encouragement and support you've shown us. A BIG thank you to everyone... Also a BIG thank you for the incredibly generous financial gift you gave us, along with the beautiful pictures of Hastings, wow!

Thanks as well for all the cards and notes expressing your love for us, we've been totally overwhelmed, thank you. So so kind and generous. We love you all very much.

We will miss this beautiful church family loads. May God bless you all.

San, Emma, Tom & Beth xxxx

Please continue to pray for them as they move to Manchester over the summer.


Natalie Williams

Posted by Natalie Williams
04:07

    

8th May 2016

Children and parents

Being a parent is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. I started out thinking I was going to be the best parent ever, but the older my four boys get, the more I realise my need of God’s grace. My children reveal my character, my flaws and my sin.

Parenting can be a huge area for comparison and condemnation. Most of us are on a journey, and we need real wisdom when we make changes to our parenting.

This subject is hugely important because there are 18.6 million families in the UK today (12.5 million of them were married couples). 3.7 million children were living below the poverty line (nine in every 30). It is estimated that there were 36,000 sexual offences against children in the UK last year and 50,000 children have been identified as needing protection from abuse.

In Ephesians 6:1-4, it starts with the words: “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.” It’s very simple, but very challenging.

The first side of this coin is that this instruction is clearly addressed to children – the apostle Paul is saying that children are to take off disobedience and put on obedience, in the same way as God’s people are called to take off and put on various other kinds of behaviour. This is not a moral code. It’s for those who follow Jesus, in order that they might reflect Him.

Obedience can sound like a cold word, but it’s very much part of the New Covenant. All Christians – adults and children – are called to obey Christ. Jesus is the ultimate example of obedience. He clearly linked love and obedience, saying: “If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love.” (John 15:10)

Obedience is not a dirty word, but one that needs to be rediscovered, because there is freedom in obedience.

But if that is one side of the coin, the other is that parents require obedience from their children. Children aren’t supposed to just obey their teachers, the police, the flight attendant, etc. The Bible says that children are to obey their parents, which means that parents are to require obedience from their children.

Parents play the critical role in discipling their children. If your children do not learn how to obey you, they will not learn to obey anyone else’s instructions. It says in Ephesians 6:4: “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”

In Roman and Jewish culture, fathers had the ultimate responsibility for raising their children.

Fathers, what a high calling we have. We have this unique role to bring understanding and shape the behaviour of our children.

We have this amazing opportunity to reflect the Father’s love to our children in how we act, talk and behave. Your example is more powerful than your words. You are always training them.

As parents this is our most important assignment. We have various seasons of life with our children but they are limited in time. Invest your time, energy and emotion into your children.

Here are 10 keys that I’ve picked up:

1. You should lovingly require obedience – this develops as they grow, but starts from the youngest years.
2. Parents you are not helpless at your toddlers tantrums and disobedience. You are bigger than them and assigned by God to be their chief discipler!
3. Requiring obedience takes time and effort, which parents do not always feel they have! But it is so important to invest – it will produce a good harvest.
4. Require obedience in small un-important things in private, so that they will respond positively to big things in public.
5. Although it's right to require obedience, we mustn't provoke our children to anger by being harsh, demanding, or overly picky.
6. Parent from neither passivity or anger: there is a middle road. Don’t parent as a reaction to how your parents were to you. Don’t explode with anger; don’t sit back and do nothing; parent in partnership and walk the middle road.
7. Remember 1 Corinthians 13 – that’s where we parent from. Be patient and kind, but require obedience.
8. Remember that to a small child you represent God as a parent. Your parenting will affect how they view God as Father. It's an honoured position.
9. Children whose parents require obedience are happier. Who wants to be around a demanding, moody, selfish person?
10. Goal of parenting is to equip them to live adult life well and point them towards Jesus.

As children, the primary way we honour our parents is with obedience, but what does it look like to honour our parents when we are adults?

Firstly, we honour them with our words. Our words are powerful. I decided to thank God for my dad, who died five years ago, remembering all of his strengths and how God had made him. He wasn’t perfect, but there was a lot to thank God for about him.

Secondly, we respect them, which can involve time and listening. Thirdly, we care for them. As a follower of Jesus, we should look to provide all the help that is possible. There is a blessing that we receive as we honour those who are our parents.

God is aware of broken families and He is aware of broken parents. In actual fact, every parent is broken, and in Matthew 7 when Jesus described parents he called them evil by comparison to God.

The first step in honouring is forgiveness. It is impossible to honour if you haven’t yet forgiven. God can give you grace to forgive.


Paul Mann

Posted by Paul Mann
12:19

    

11th June 2015

The Alpha and Omega of King's

Can you remember the first time you came to church? Maybe you've grown up in a Christian family and have always been involved in church life. But if it's all new to you, how does King's help you make the journey from passer-by to part of the family?

It may seem obvious, but our first and most important way of reaching out to people is through our Sunday meetings. This is where we attract the most visitors, and both meetings have different appeals. While our morning meetings have plenty for families and have the largest number of people, our evening meetings are much more relaxed, taking place in Coffee Box with a more acoustic feel to worship and smaller numbers, which for many is a great introduction to church.

One person who was new to church and started coming to King's last year said, "From the moment I entered the doors I felt warmly welcomed and the atmosphere was great. I could immediately tell that I was going to like it. The preach that evening spoke so many words to me – I felt like it was chosen just for me. Everyone in the church was so lovely and wanted to speak to me and make me feel included."

The church also runs plenty of regular events throughout the week, whether that's our parent and toddler group Totz Klub or our lunch club for the over 55s, while the Hastings Centre hosts a range of activities, from mid-week fitness groups to film nights at our café, Coffee Box. With an estimated 2,600 visitors coming through our doors each week, excluding Sundays, there's plenty of opportunity for those who are new to hear about King's and join us on Sundays.

Plenty of new visitors are interested in exploring Christianity for the first time, and this is where our Alpha course comes in. Our last course started with a taster evening that attracted over 100 people. Hosted in Coffee Box, the night included a free curry for every guest and video testimonies of changed lives from members of King's. From this, nearly 30 people (more than we've ever had on one Alpha course) signed up for the course itself, which began a week later.

The Alpha Course is for anyone, even with little or no experience of Christianity. It's a setting to hear about some of the ideas underpinning the faith, explore different topics and ask any questions – nothing is too outrageous! Some of the topics we explored on the last course included: "Is there a God?", "Who is Jesus?" and "What happened at the Cross?" During the Holy Spirit Day, which was dedicated to understanding and receiving from the Holy Spirit, several experienced him for the first time; and in another session exploring the area of healing, we were thrilled to see guests healed of aches and pains there and then. But even more exciting was the fact that several had given their lives to Jesus for the first time during the course, which we love to celebrate! You can read about some of the testimonies of guests who were on the course here.

The Alpha Course was so popular this year that we decided to run three 'Alpha Plus' sessions after the main course had finished. These seemed to be the natural next step, and we were able to cover more advanced questions, such as "What is prayer?" and "What is the Church?"

A guest from our most recent Alpha course said, "I was healed during one of the Alpha sessions. The Holy Spirit day was mind-blowing, I've never witnessed or felt anything like it."

After the Christmas break, with plenty of opportunity for those finishing Alpha to visit us at our Christmas event the Greatest Gift, our Foundations course began. Taking a step forward from Alpha, our Foundations course aims to lay down the fundamental truths to Christianity. It's primarily for new Christians, although this year there was an opportunity for anyone who was ‘still looking’ after Alpha to join in the group discussion. The seven-week course followed a curriculum set by former lead elder of King's, John Groves, and this time there were short interviews with mature Christians on different areas of faith, as well as the chance to clear up Christian jargon and discuss the practical applications of living with this faith. The course was a success, as you can find out here.

Several people committed their lives to Jesus throughout the two courses, which is really exciting! This is our hope in running the courses, and we're so pleased to see people know Jesus for themselves. In Scripture we read that one of the first things we should do when we give our lives to Jesus is to be baptised (we see it in the gospels, even in the life of Jesus). In November, we had the privilege of baptising 12 people; in February a further six; and in June another nine. These 27 made a public commitment of their faith our wonderful Saviour.

Following the courses and baptisms, guests this year have been invited to join a small group specifically running for them. It can be easy to let people 'fall through the gap' when finishing these courses, especially when the next step is to join a church of around 400, which can be daunting, so small group life is an important way of integrating new people into the life of King's.

They've also had a flavour of church life through serving. This year is the first time we've invited people to serve on the back of a Foundations course, and it is so key in demonstrating the love that God has shown us and participating in our family life. There are plenty of areas to get involved at church, from helping on the welcome team (which for some echoes their first experience of church) to helping to set up meetings, and much more.

Those who have learnt about the basics of Christianity afterwards also have the option to take part in an Exploring Membership course, our most recent of which ran this month. This is a chance for anyone who thinks they might want to become a member of King's to explore, in two sessions, what values we uphold and what the vision is for the future. Exploring Membership gives people the chance to ask questions about this particular church and decide whether they want to commit to church life here.

There are so many other courses that King's runs, which are open to all: the Parenting Course, the Marriage Course, (which attracted non-Christians for the first time this year), and the Christians Against Poverty (CAP) Money Course, which has been helpful in giving principles for effective money management and helping people to stay out of debt. Even for people who aren't Christians, these sessions are full of valuable teaching and principles that are applicable to various areas of life. Our aim is to practically equip anyone for day-to-day life, and in doing so we want to share God's love with them.

It can be easy to recognise the huge amount that King's does in the process of welcoming new people, but we don't want to forget that the reason for all of these courses, events and meetings are not just so that we can create a bigger club. We want to see people enter into a relationship with Jesus that goes from strength to strength! We're grateful for the opportunities God gives us to see this happen in numerous lives, and hope and pray that through us God will continue to grow his Church.


Sian Francis-Cox

Posted by Sian Francis-Cox
14:13

    

8th April 2015

The changing face of King's

If you've ever had to rummage through the roof space at the Hastings Centre, you may have come across the church archives, hidden in the corner under a dusty light, with some very old hardware. Though King's is now a modern, thriving church with brilliant facilities and new people joining all the time, these archives are a reminder that it hasn't always looked like this.

Many of the faces that we see on Sunday have not been around since the church first emerged 40 years ago. King's started as St Leonards Christian Fellowship in 1974, when five people began to meet in Don and Stephanie Smith's basement flat. Within two years, the group had grown large enough to need to hire a building and finally, in 1991, we purchased Boundaries, an indoor cricket centre, which is now the Hastings Centre and has recently undergone a huge refurbishment project. The people that make up King's have changed over the years and though faces are always changing, King's remains a community that demonstrates the faithfulness of God in Hastings.

The staff currently working at King's come from all kinds of backgrounds. Those who have been working for many years work alongside staff who have only joined within the last few months, and despite the time differences, they all share a love for King's and serving the church. Su Butler, our current church office manager and Paul Mann's PA, worked as a headteacher before joining the church team around nine years ago. She first joined temporarily, in Resources, and also volunteered in the kids' work and several other areas, but became a permanent member of staff in 2007. She says, "When you think about King's in the past, it seems so small! And when I was first asked to become an administrator, I said no. But now I love my job, I really love it. I wouldn't do anything else! I look forward to it every day."

Many members of staff have been working at King's for a few years, and have seen many changes in the course of church life, whether that's in our leadership team (with our current lead elder, Paul, taking his position in 2009 after five years on staff), in the staff team, or in the way the building is run. Though the Hastings Centre has changed hands over the last few years, either run by those who've now left Hastings (such as Alwood Wick, who is now based in the Philippines with his family) or by some of our current members of staff, it's still running with great enthusiasm. The renovation project has opened up many opportunities to showcase King's, especially now that there are plenty more rooms than when the building was purchased, and to extend God's love to our community.

Laura Grove, who manages our on-site coffee shop, Coffee Box, and has been working here for the shorter time of 18 months, is able to think of creative ideas to welcome new people to the Hastings Centre, which is now a thriving conference centre run as a social enterprise. Coffee Box plays an active role in bringing people from the community into King's, as it opens throughout the week as a family-friendly place to meet. It hosts plenty of events, too, with family film nights and a licensed bar. It's a big step forward from the first purchase of the cricket facility around 20 years ago, and with the launch of our Sunday evening meetings after Coffee Box had opened, it's been an integral part of giving the building a new, modern look while King's remains grounded in its foundations as a community hungry for God.

Though King's has undergone significant changes, it keeps the same vision that Don Smith and others had in 1974: to glorify God and show his love to Hastings & 1066 Country. One of the oldest pieces in our archive, written in 1988, defines King's like this: "Who do we think we are? [...] We agree with the apostle Paul's definition of the church: 'All who are called to be God's holy people, who belong to him in union with Christ Jesus, together with all people everywhere who worship our Lord Jesus Christ.'" And the same is true of us today, demonstrating that God has continued to be faithful in growing His church in Hastings.


Sian Francis-Cox

Posted by Sian Francis-Cox
09:00

    

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